Birthdays are like checkpoints in our life; by some default rule, we expect others to congratulate us when it’s our birthday.
When they congratulate us, it means that they remember and think of us, simple as that.
But nobody wished you a happy birthday, and you feel terrible about it.
Why didn’t anyone wish you a happy birthday? Because they forgot, they’re mad at you, or they just don’t care about you.
Did you deserve that or not?
Is it just the irresponsibility of others, or is there something bigger hiding there?
The fact that no one congratulated you on your birthday may help you come to some new realizations.
Stay until the end of this article, and you will surely learn at least something that can help you deal with birthday blues.
Who Didn’t Wish You a Happy Birthday, and Why?
The fact that no one congratulated you on your birthday hurt you tremendously and raised various questions about why no one remembered.
You’re probably so angry that you never want to celebrate your birthday again.
To better understand why someone did not congratulate you on your birthday, we will list the important people who are expected to congratulate you.
So, let’s start with the following:
1. Your Parents Didn’t Wish You a Happy Birthday
If anyone knows for sure when your birthday is, it’s your parents, so why didn’t they congratulate you?
It’s almost impossible that they forgot, only if you don’t have any contact with your parent and he completely forgot, for example, if your father remarried and has a new family.
Something else is at stake here.
They are assumably mad or disappointed in you.
You probably made them angry, and now they don’t congratulate you on your birthday out of protest.
This is hugely immature behavior, especially for parents who are expected to act maturely regarding their children.
They may be angry with you if you do not live up to their expectations.
This is a characteristic of narcissistic and overcontrolling parents.
They probably think you have forgotten about them and don’t call them often enough, so they didn’t call you on your birthday either.
This also applies to siblings with whom you are not on good terms, which is why they do not congratulate you on your birthday.
2. Your Friends Didn’t Do Anything For Your Birthday
You know that scene from the movies: You walk into a dark apartment, expecting nothing when suddenly the lights turn on, the room is full of people, everyone shouts “Surprise,” and your awesome birthday party begins.
Wait a minute. You didn’t get that for your birthday.
You didn’t actually get a single regular text from your BFFs.
How is it possible? Well, at least they got a little red notification on Facebook that it’s your birthday, so they knew, is it that hard to write that one message?
The logical conclusion is that they are angry with you and don’t care about you.
Think about whether there are any unresolved issues between you and your friends.
What is very important to emphasize is that even though you are very angry with your friends, people often drift away over time, and that is just how life goes.
You had a great time with someone when you were young, but now you have entirely drifted apart as an adult and have nothing in common anymore.
However, true friends remain throughout life, and surely know when your birthday is.
Do you have real friends?
3. Your Husband Forgot About Your Birthday
If your husband is forgetful, we understand that this can lead to arguments in the marriage.
Do you have to remind him to do anything around the house?
We will assume your husband is a busy man who works a lot and has no bad intentions but is just forgetful.
That’s all fine, but your birthday is once a year, and it doesn’t make sense for him not to do anything for your birthday.
However, this can also indicate that your marriage is not ideal and has some problems.
Has this “trend” of not celebrating holidays and birthdays been going on for some time in your marriage?
Come to think, he didn’t even buy you anything for Christmas.
There is definitely the elephant in the room that you and your husband need to address.
What to Do When No One Wishes You a Happy Birthday?
The fact that no one remembered your birthday probably makes you feel like the loneliest person in the world.
However, it can help you come to some realizations that concern others and yourself.
Here’s what you need to do:
1. Consider Your Behavior
It is always best to start with you, which is what we will do in this case.
Are you a bad guy?
Did any of your actions affect the fact that no one wants to wish you a happy birthday?
As we said, maybe your parents are angry because you neglected them.
Your friends are maybe disappointed in you.
After all, you usually don’t want to hang out with them, or your husband is sad because you don’t care about his feelings.
You have to consider all of that before you make a drama because they didn’t wish you a happy birthday.
Also, you might have some traits that get on people’s nerves.
We are not saying that you should change your personality for the sake of others, but if you feel bad like you do today, don’t be surprised where that came from.
2. Think About How Others Treat You
We said in the previous part that you should start with yourself, and you should do it.
But let’s be honest, unless you’re the biggest villain ever, you deserve at least someone to wish you a happy birthday.
The fact that your parents didn’t congratulate you could mean that they don’t care about you.
Think about it: are you always sad when in their company?
If your friends haven’t congratulated you, maybe it’s time to change friends.
Maybe you don’t feel good in that group of people anyway, they are jealous of you, or you don’t feel like you fit in that group anymore.
You were great friends when you were younger, but now life has changed, and those friendships don’t seem to be what they used to be.
As for the forgetful husband, you have more work to do because you live with him, and we assume you want a happy marriage.
Before you get mad and can’t control yourself, consider everything in his defense.
But you have to mention to him that it bothered you that he didn’t wish you a happy birthday.
Some other marriage problems will probably surface.
These are all issues that need to be resolved, but if he cares about you, that’s no reason not to wish you a happy birthday.
3. Let Everyone Know in Advance When Your Birthday is
This may seem like a desperate move, but you’re clearly someone who takes his birthday seriously.
It is probably also important to you how many people will congratulate you on social networks as if it were a popularity contest.
Mention to people in casual conversation that your birthday is coming up.
And be sure to check on Facebook that you haven’t hidden your date of birth because you’re afraid of getting old, but that’s an entirely different story.
But is it really important how many people congratulate you on your birthday?
If you ask us, the most important people in your life should wish you a happy birthday, not random people from social networks.
4. Use it to Your Advantage
Feeling alone and forgotten can be daunting, but it also gives you an excellent chance for personal growth.
Use it to heal your emotional wounds and get to know yourself better, and the right people will come into your life when the time is right.
In addition to realizing some mistakes you make in your relationship with others, you can also understand how they perceive you.
We’re not saying you should immediately cut off all ties with anyone who hasn’t wished you a happy birthday, but let it be an insight for the future.
The fact that no one wished you a happy birthday should not be the end of the world for you.
It can actually help you realize important truths about yourself and others and provide an opportunity to change something.
And nothing prevents you from spending that special day exactly as you want to.
And yes, after all, one person wished you a happy birthday.
Do you wonder who that is? That is us!