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Why Does Your Wife Say She Loves You but Doesn’t Show it? 7 Reasons

Love should never be one-sided. 

Ideal love is where both partners give themselves equally to that relationship and marriage.

But unfortunately, it’s not always like that, and your situation is an example.

Your wife may say she loves you, but her actions don’t show it at all.

Why does your wife say she loves you but doesn’t show it? Because you have distanced yourself from each other, she is potentially going through a difficult time or not looking at you the same way anymore.

Lack of Intimacy in Marriage

How is it possible?

Until recently, you were love birds, and now you feel like you are two strangers.

When your wife says, “I love you,” it is purely out of habit. You no longer feel the weight of those words.

What to do and how to position yourself in this situation?

You obviously love your wife as soon as you read this and want to change something.

Keep reading this article because we will list the signs indicating that your wife may have stopped loving you.

Why Does Your Wife Say She Loves You but Doesn’t Show it? 7 Potential Signs

Those three words lose their magic when she doesn’t show them.

Love is not about words but actions, emotions, attraction, and passion.

Being married further complicates the situation because we will assume that you already had all of this, but it faded over time.

What are the signs that this scenario is happening to you:

1. Your Wife Doesn’t Prioritize You

Husband Doesnt Want to Spend Christmas with Wifes Family

Have you noticed that you are always last on your wife’s priority list?

You don’t want to be a drama queen, and you’re not a narcissist that everything has to revolve around, but this is starting to bother you.

Everything is always more important to your wife than you.

Work, career, children, and your wife’s family it’s all much more important than you.

Suddenly her friends became more important than you.

Too often, your wife chooses to have a girl’s night out instead of spending time with you.

You understand that your wife cannot constantly be with you, but there is always room for prioritizing, and it is obvious that you are no longer essential to your wife.

2. Your Wife Doesn’t Trust You Enough

“Trust: no marriage can survive for long without trust.”

Anton Robbins

We shouldn’t accuse you, but when someone doesn’t trust us anymore, it’s because of some of our actions.

Did you betray your wife’s trust when you needed her the most?

Maybe you lied to her, and now she doesn’t trust you.

Even when you tell the truth, she still doesn’t believe you.

You are not her confidant.

That’s why she now confides in other people, her family, friends, or someone else.

3. Your Wife Thinks You are Irresponsible and Immature

Partner Changed After Marriage

No woman likes an immature husband.

Is she exaggerating because she thinks that about you, or is it true?

Let’s say you play video games all day and don’t help her with the housework. It’s clearly not the behavior of a responsible man.

Or if you leave all the decisions regarding the kids to her.

You are just a fun dad who plays with the children for half an hour while she has to do everything else. 

Do you even like being a dad?

House chores? You swiftly avoid all that.

If you think it’s a woman’s job to finish all around the house and it’s not your job, you’re in serious trouble, sir.

Arguments over housework are one of the crucial reasons why marriages end in divorce.

Your wife thinks you don’t do enough around the house and children. 

It’s probably tiring for your wife to constantly remind you to do something.

4. Your Wife Has a Lack of Interest in Your Relationship

sad and annoyed couple after a fight

When was the last time you went out?

And when you go out, it’s because you insisted.

She doesn’t care and always tries to come up with an excuse.

And when you go out, you feel alone in a restaurant or a movie theater because she doesn’t seem to be there mentally, only physically.

The distance between you echoes too loud in your mind.

She started forgetting important dates of your relationship.

The biggest warning sign was when she decided she no longer wanted to celebrate the anniversary.

And yes, she doesn’t want presents from you for her birthday.

What woman doesn’t like gifts?

The situation is more serious than you think, my friend.

5. Your Wife Has No Problem With The Lack of Intimacy in Your Marriage

We will ask you directly: When was the last time you and your wife had sex?

Maybe you don’t even remember when that was.

It is not uncommon for intimacy to be neglected in marriage.

Obligations, stress, and lack of time affect the lack of intimacy between spouses.

However, your wife avoids it even when there is time for action in bed.

Maybe she uses that universal female excuse, “I have a headache.”

In any case, it makes you insecure and questions whether you are still attractive to her.

6. You and Your Wife no Longer Share The Same Interests

You know how you used to be soul mates, twin flames, or whatever you called each other.

Time seems to have taken its toll, and life’s routine has swallowed up that love of yours.

However, you may be a completely different person today.

Maybe you have changed, and some of the things your wife liked about you have now been replaced by new traits she doesn’t like.

Let’s say she adored your creativity and diligence, but now you’re just lazy and unmotivated at a dead-end job you hate.

And maybe it is the opposite. 

You haven’t changed at all. You’ve remained exactly the same person.

Your wife thinks life is not just about chasing money, while you are too focused on material things.

She wants to travel and explore the world while you are a typical white-collar guy.

Maybe your wife feels like you are limiting her in chasing her dreams.

She tells you about some profound things, and you say she doesn’t do enough around the house.

7. Your Wife Is Not Happy With Her Life Right Now

It is possible that your wife is not satisfied with her life right now.

She feels that some aspect of her life is not in the right place and is bothering her.

Maybe it’s her job, financial situation, family problems, or even those few pounds she can’t lose, no matter how much she tries.

If she feels unhappy about something, don’t be surprised that she doesn’t show enough affection to you.

Although a partner should be our support in such moments, sometimes it isn’t easy to show love.

What Should You Do When Your Wife Doesn’t Show That She Loves You?

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Let’s explain right away that the fact that your wife does not tell you that she loves you does not mean that it is true. 

However, it may indicate some future problems in the marriage.

You are tired of doubting her emotions and want to get the love you deserve.

Ok, follow these steps:

1. Tell Her That Her Words Alone Are Not Enough For You

We know there is some general opinion that women are more romantic than men.

Our opinion is that it does not make sense and is all individual.

Maybe you are the hopeless romantic in your marriage.

Your wife says “I love you” before bed to you like it is some obligation.

That is not enough, and you don’t feel loved because of it.

Actions are needed to follow those words.

2. Don’t Manipulate Her to Show Love to You

Don’t force her to do things just to show that she loves you.

Let her show you her way, and be patient and understanding.

If she already asks you how you want her to show that she loves you, tell her exactly what you want.

3. Help Her Overcome The Problems That are Troubling Her

Couple with problems

Be with her always and in everything.

If you have lost her trust, work on regaining it.

Whatever troubles her, you are her main support.

Make her feel safe with you.

If the problems are related to your relationship, work on overcoming them.

4. Be The Man That She Will Love

We’re not saying you’re not already a good husband, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t continue to be or be even better.

Help her with the household chores. Take care of the children as well as she does. 

Don’t neglect her, but let her have some alone time.

Also, show her little signs of attention that will let her know you care.

Flowers, breakfast in bed, a spa voucher, and similar won’t cost you much and can bring you a lot, trust us!

To Conclude

“A relationship is not only about saying I love you every day; it’s also about showing it every day.”

Words are nice, but actions are more important.

It is up to you to do everything to make your wife understand that.

Implement these steps, and we are sure there will be progress in your marriage. Good luck!

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