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Why Does Being Asked Questions Make Me Angry? 5 Possible Reasons

As much as asking questions is part of everyday conversation, they can be highly irritating.

We undoubtedly show interest and learn new information with questions, but questions also have another side.

Questions can be highly nosy, rude, insensitive, manipulative, offensive, etc.

That’s exactly how you feel when someone asks you questions, and that’s why you hate them.

Why does being asked questions make you angry? This could be because you feel like your privacy is being invaded, you dislike pointless questions, or specific questions make you feel insecure.

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How many times has it just happened to you that your whole day is ruined because of some stupid question from a colleague at work or even a friend you hang out with?

Sometimes you think it’s better to avoid people just to prevent their toxic, manipulative questions.

This article will better explain why you get triggered when asked questions and how to build the best defense against stupid questions.

5 Probable Reasons Why Being Asked Questions Make You Angry

Everywhere you go, you feel like you are being asked stupid questions that raise your anger and ruin your mood.

It’s common to encounter stupid questions at work, but unfortunately, even your family members can ask them at home, making it difficult to escape.

What are the reasons why you hate it so much when others ask you questions:

1. You Feel That Your Privacy is Being Violated

Intrusive questions are the most common way to violate privacy.

If you value privacy and prefer not to share personal details, you may feel uncomfortable when asked unnecessary or intrusive questions.

Certain questions may touch upon sensitive or private aspects of your life that you prefer to keep to yourself.

And, after all, you have the right not to talk about yourself when you don’t want to.

Some people fail to understand the concept of privacy and therefore do not value it. Consequently, it is unlikely that they will respect the privacy of others.

Have you ever met someone who immediately opens up and shares everything about themselves? They might tell you about their income, residence, likes, and dislikes? And then what? Then they expect the same from you. What is wrong with those people!

Of course, you have different levels of privacy with everyone. You certainly allow close people to ask more intimate questions. 

However, it’s important to remember that you can decline to answer any questions, even if they come from family members if you feel they are too invasive or overly controlling.

2. You Have Trust Issues

You may have been more eager to give answers to all the questions asked, but that changed.

Unfortunately, it was the wrong decision many times because it was counterproductive for you.

Someone has taken advantage of your oversharing in the past and thus completely ruined your trust in everyone else.

Your trust in others has led you to experience several uncomfortable and awkward situations.

Also, someone may have used the information you provided. 

Let’s say you shared a business idea that you are planning with someone, and the next thing you know, your vision is stolen, someone else is making a profit, and you didn’t even get a thank you for it. So how can you not be bitter after that?

3. You Think That Others Ask You Something Just to Hurt You

We will assume that you think most people are mean and ask you something just so they can judge you or even humiliate you.

You will surely find yourself in a position where you are asked about something that challenges your beliefs, opinions, or competence. Although you want to avoid such situations, they are inevitable.

If you are honest, direct and hate mind games and two-faced people, malicious questions will undoubtedly annoy you.

Asking such questions intends to harm you or to establish the person asking as superior to you.

Imagine a situation where a “friend” asks about your income, not out of genuine curiosity but to brag about their success and higher earnings.

We hope you don’t have many friends like that, because if you do, then you don’t need enemies.

There is also that strange human need when someone complains about their problems and expects you to complain about yours. That’s why they ask you various questions to find out what bothers you. 

This is unsurprising because it is well-known that miserable people try to make others miserable.

4. You Hate Stupid Questions

“There are no stupid questions, only stupid answers.” This is the saying you agree with the least. 

According to you, there are many pointless no-sense questions to which only a stupid answer can be given.

Many stupid questions come from small talk, which sometimes seems inevitable.

You leave the house, ignore others, and rush to work, but your nosy neighbor is ready to ask you some random stupid thing just to start a conversation with you. You hate neighbors like that.

Sometimes, while you’re at work, your colleagues may ask you random questions just to avoid an awkward silence. 

You must think: “Can’t we just shut up and work? Why do you all have to be so social?”

Because of your attitude, we will assume that you are not too popular among your colleagues.

5. You’re Afraid That Questions Will Expose Your Insecurities

Unless you’re some egocentric narcissist (which we know you’re not because they love to be constantly asked something), it’s clear that you don’t like being put in the spotlight.

We are not saying that there are no malicious questions because there definitely are, but not all the questions you get daily are like that, but you perceive them that way.

It’s about your insecurities that scream when someone asks you a question to which you are afraid you don’t know the answer.

Imagine the following situation: You are at work or at dinner with friends. Someone asks you a question in front of everyone, and you don’t know the answer, even though everyone expects you to know it. This is what your nightmares look like.

You are afraid of appearing uncultured, uneducated, or even embarrassing yourself.

It is also possible that you don’t like questions because you are hiding something.

You may expose something you wish to keep hidden by answering specific questions.

That’s why you get defensive instead of answering questions and even start arguing. Usually, those who hide something have the most need to lie and justify themselves.

How to Deal With Questions That Make You Angry? 

You have had enough situations where a random awkward question ruins your day. Instead of letting stupid questions upset you, you can protect yourself by putting up a shield and deflecting them.

Here’s how to do it:

1. Some Questions Don’t Deserve an Answer

You have the right to choose which questions to answer. 

Some people are rude, manipulative, and don’t respect boundaries. 

You are not required to answer any questions that make you uncomfortable or violate your boundaries. 

If you feel threatened or offended by a conversation, it is okay to leave without feeling impolite.

2. Recognize The Harmful Question

It’s essential to recognize that not all questions are harmful, manipulative, or toxic. 

Some questions are entirely valid and expected, and it’s important to differentiate them from unnecessary ones.

Especially those small talk questions. We know they are stupid and unnecessary to you, but people often ask them just to say something.

3. Recognize Your Insecurities

Being overly triggered by specific questions is not beneficial for your overall well-being.

This is a sign of insecurity and dissatisfaction with yourself; therefore, you feel that everyone is against you.

Focusing on your insecurities can help you build a strong defense against questions or comments that may trigger them in the future.

Most Importantly – Set Clear Boundaries

Unfortunately, we cannot always escape from unpleasant questions, whether malicious or not.

There will always be someone who will ask you that question that can make you angry, but is it worth being angry? You’ll just waste your nerves.

If there are certain topics that you do not want to discuss at a particular time or location, you can communicate this by saying: 

  • “Please refrain from asking me personal questions; thank you.” 
  • “I would rather not talk about this.” 
  • “I am not comfortable discussing workplace-related topics.”

You must be even more direct if you meet a more aggressive interlocutor: 

  • “That’s none of your business! Mind your own business!”
  • “My personal life is none of your concern.” 
  • “That topic is offensive to me, and I would rather not discuss it.”

Understanding the reasons behind this emotional response and finding ways to manage it effectively is essential. 

By recognizing the potential triggers and implementing these few tips, we believe that uncomfortable questions will cause you less trouble.

Finally, we have a question for you, and we hope it won’t make you angry: Was this article informative and helpful to you? Please let us know in the comment section. Thank you.