Our birthdays are those special days when we expect attention, gifts, and appreciation from others. And especially from our love partners.
However, what if we get nothing on that day, and our partner does nothing that day to make us feel special? That just happened to you.
Your boyfriend didn’t get you anything for your birthday. He probably wouldn’t even congratulate you if you hadn’t reminded him.
Why didn’t your boyfriend get you anything for your birthday? Because he forgot, he didn’t have money to buy you a present, didn’t know what to choose, thinks it’s still too early for gifts, or worst, he takes you for granted.
You’re wondering, is it normal that your boyfriend doesn’t get you anything for your birthday? NO, it is not normal, sorry.
You are furious, and you don’t know what to do now. It seems to you that you can break up the relationship very easily, but wait! You have to take a few things into consideration first.
This article is here to help you realize what is best to do in your situation.
Why Didn’t Your Boyfriend Get You Anything For Your Birthday? 5 Most Common Reasons
All relationships have their own particular dynamics in how they work. The way birthdays are celebrated and the attitude towards giving gifts is a whole chapter in every relationship.
We will take that into account when explaining the reasons why your boyfriend didn’t get you a gift for your birthday, which are:
1. He Forgot
Can forgetfulness be an excuse? So what did you need to do? Constantly remind him when it’s your birthday?
Even though it’s the beginning of a relationship, one of the first things you tell your boyfriend is when it’s your birthday.
This is not only to determine how your zodiac signs match but so that your boyfriend knows that this is the day he should make you happy.
Again, this does not have to be a major sign of something wrong in your relationship. What happened was that your boyfriend forgot your birthday, even though everything else is generally ok in your relationship.
He may have had a lot on his mind, and if the relationship is new, he still hasn’t included your birthday in the list of the most important days in his life.
2. He Didn’t Have Money to Buy You a Present
A money problem can stand in the way of you getting a birthday present. Especially if your boyfriend is younger and has yet to get a job.
Being broke is one of the worst possible excuses in this situation.
If your boyfriend invested just a little time and thought there were so many things he could’ve done, that wouldn’t cost him anything but would mean a lot to you.
It takes a little imagination and creativity. It’s not all about materialistic things.
3. He Didn’t Know What To Buy You
Another incredibly lame excuse.
The point of a relationship is to get to know your partner. Your boyfriend should find out what you like, your interests, and what makes you happy and combine it into a gift.
But he didn’t show that effort. He was probably guided by the logic that it’s better not to buy you anything than a gift you won’t like. This is totally wrong reasoning.
He could have bought you at least some universal gift like flowers.
There’s a common belief that guys don’t like buying gifts because they’re bad at it, but that’s just a stupid reason.
We’re not saying your boyfriend is necessarily a bad guy, but maybe he was incredibly insecure when buying you a present. But in any case, he gets minus points.
4. He Didn’t Realize How Important It Was
Some people indeed give less importance to birthdays. It’s just a random day for them.
That could be how your boyfriend views birthdays. That’s ok, he has a right to his opinion, but he has to respect yours as well.
We understand that you love your birthday, and it’s selfish of him not to give you anything because of his opinions.
A relationship cannot function without a mutual respect between partners.
Just imagine in the future how much potential this party-breaker type of boyfriend has to ruin your every special occasion.
5. He Takes You For Granted
Now we’re getting into the field of huge red flags in your relationship.
The fact that your boyfriend didn’t give you anything for your birthday can also mean he takes you for granted.
It’s not just your birthday; it’s about your whole relationship.
Your boyfriend sees your relationship as more casual and not a long-term serious one, as you may imagine.
Therefore, he wasn’t too generous even for Valentine’s Day.
He clearly understands that celebrating holidays and birthdays and giving gifts makes your relationship more serious, and he does not want that.
5 Things to Do When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Get You Anything For Your Birthday
When your boyfriend forgets or fails to get you a gift for your birthday, it can be a disappointing and hurtful experience. You might feel neglected or unimportant.
How you handle that situation is very important because that is how you set the pattern for further developing your relationship. Here’s what you need to do:
1. Don’t Jump to Conclusions
We understand that you want to make a whole scene about not getting anything from your boyfriend for his birthday. We’re not saying you’re not entirely right because there’s generally no excuse for his actions.
But why not hear his side of the story first?
Especially if you have been in a relationship for a while, first hear his point of view and then draw conclusions about what to do next.
2. Let Your Boyfriend Know How Much You Care About Your Birthday
This is especially important if the relationship is new and you are still getting to know each other.
Ask him how he feels about birthdays? Birthday celebrations? Gifts? Everything about it.
Maybe he’s just lazy and bad at remembering dates, but he agrees. Then save your birthday and other important dates on his phone so he has no excuse for forgetting.
And what if you have entirely different views?
Your boyfriend isn’t a fan of birthdays and is generally not the type to like celebrations. On the other hand, you love birthdays, celebrations, gifts, and everything related to it.
Of course, he has the right to his opinion, but he must also accept some of your views.
He can’t expect you to give up the things you love to do just because he doesn’t. Relationships don’t function that way; they work on mutual compromise and understanding.
3. Set Realistic Expectations
We know you would love a surprise birthday party and the gift you imagined, but slow down.
Your boyfriend can’t always read your mind about exactly what you need for your birthday.
It is best to set realistic expectations so that she is not disappointed.
You can directly tell your boyfriend what you want for your birthday and how you imagine that day. But don’t demand too overwhelming and expensive things. The effort is important.
If you still want him to put some effort into finding the right gift for you, at least give him some hints. You can tell him there is a movie you would like to see in the cinema and that it is for your birthday. That’s a clear hint.
4. Give Your Boyfriend A Chance To Make It Up To You
He made a mistake, but you shouldn’t neg him forever about that.
People forget things, life can be too stressful and busy sometimes, and maybe he didn’t understand you well about your birthday.
What matters is that he now wants to make things right.
Let him show you how much he cares about you, and enjoy your birthday, even if it’s a little late.
5. Reevaluate Your Relationship
Is there something more hidden behind the fact that your boyfriend didn’t get you anything for your birthday?
It may be time for some hard realization that your relationship isn’t quite as perfect as it seems.
If your boyfriend generally never does the things you want or prefers to spend time with others than with you, read between the lines.
We know that it can be challenging to understand all this on your birthday but look at it as an opportunity to finish something that had no potential and celebrate your next birthday with someone who will know to appreciate you more.
In The End – Should You Be Upset Because Your Boyfriend Didn’t Get You a Birthday Gift?
As you can understand from the abovementioned reasons, this can happen only once and does not necessarily mean your relationship is on the wrong path.
Improving a few issues with a healthy approach can change things and keep your relationship on track.
However, this can also clearly indicate that your relationship has no future and that there are specific differences in how you and your boyfriend view the seriousness of your relationship.
Birthdays are special days when our loved ones should try to make us happy. And by giving gifts, we shove that we care about someone.
So, why would you be in a relationship where you would be robbed of those basic things?