Whether we want to admit it or not, the influence of social media on relationships is extremely noticeable today.
With the advent of social media, relationships have faced new challenges, which will not change but may even become more pronounced. Entirely new possibilities for arguments and misunderstandings in relationships have opened up.
One of the prevalent reasons for misunderstanding is precisely your situation, which is your following list on Instagram.
Why is your girlfriend mad about who you follow on Instagram? It could be due to jealousy, insecurity, or anxiety related to comparisons with those girls. Additionally, she may be concerned about the image you present on social media or have doubts about your commitment to the relationship.
Although all this may seem like no big deal to you, don’t be ignorant because this can easily destroy your relationship.
On the one hand, you may be angry because your girlfriend has no right to ban who you follow on Instagram, but it’s important to consider if she has a valid reason for being upset.
This article will examine this relatively new and increasingly prevalent relationship challenge.
5 Main Reasons Your Girlfriend is Angry About Who You Follow on Instagram
Social media has advanced tremendously. We’ll take Instagram as an example, which is the main topic of this article.
Instagram is a visual-focused social network with a great algorithm that recommends personalized content.
That’s why when you go to the “explore” page on Instagram, exactly what interests you will pop up. If you’ve ever checked some Insta model’s page, you’ve fallen into the algorithm’s trap. Instagram will constantly recommend similar profiles of other hot girls. Sometimes, it seems incredible how Instagram guesses exactly your taste in women.
You can’t resist following such accounts, but your girlfriend is angry. Why your girlfriend is mad because you follow Instagram models:
1. Jealousy and Insecurity
One of the primary reasons your girlfriend might be mad about who you follow on Instagram is feelings of insecurity and jealousy.
Your girlfriend may feel highly threatened because you look at half-naked photos of other girls on Instagram.
Many of those girls you follow on Instagram have huge followings, and they probably don’t follow you back or even see your likes on their pictures or reactions to their stories. Such girls have an inbox full of messages from guys like you.
So it’s all fantasy land, but what if one such girl decides to reply to your message. What happens then? That’s exactly what your girlfriend is jealous of.
Her jealousy can be highly influenced by negative experiences from the past because perhaps a similar situation has already happened to her in a previous relationship.
2. Comparative Anxiety
Your girlfriend has caught the pattern of girls you follow on Instagram.
These are primarily hot girls wearing provocative clothes, posing especially suggestively in the photos.
Your girlfriend might worry that you’re comparing her to the girls you follow, which can negatively impact her self-esteem.
Her anxiety can only be stronger if she suffers from certain insecurities about her appearance.
It’s easy for her to assume you’ll leave her for someone who looks like the girls you follow on Instagram.
It can contribute to her doubts if you compare her with other women or advise her on how she should dress and look.
Let’s not forget your nasty comments when she put on a few extra pounds.
3. Your Image on Social Networks
Again, is the impression we leave on social networks really that important? It does matter to a certain extent.
Trust us, no girl is happy to be in a relationship with a guy who follows hundreds of accounts of scantily clad girls. Does your following list look like this?
Instagram is full of provocative photos of girls in bikinis, and reels where these girls show exceptionally explicit provocative behavior are also top-rated.
When your girlfriend asked why you follow such girls, you answered that all guys do the same.
Try an experiment: list all your friends who also follow accounts that border on pornography. How many of them have a girlfriend? We guarantee that most of them don’t have girlfriends, maybe even all. Why?
Almost all girls think a guy is creepy if he follows too many accounts of semi-topless girls. She’s aware that others can see what kind of guy she’s dating when they go to the list of accounts you follow.
4. Disappointment in You
Your girlfriend is disappointed by your behavior on social media.
We can safely say that your girlfriend does not support such explicit content as forced by the girls you follow.
She believes that such content only degrades women. There is a talk about body positivity and women empowerment, but your girlfriend thinks that showing naked body parts is just clouth chasing on social networks.
Your girlfriend expected much more from you but realized you are as shallow as most men. This is a massive turn-off for her.
It’s easy for her to think you’re just another guy objectifying women. Does that mean you’re only with her because of her body?
5. Fear That You Will Get Even More Addicted
Your girlfriend realizes that your behavior is starting to become an addiction.
Maybe that seems too drastic to you, but porn addiction is real, and this is very close to it, if not the same.
In addition to spending all your time on the phone, you started acting secretive about your phone in front of your girlfriend.
You also started to delete everything from your phone, the complete search history, to hide what you browse and watch.
It is common that these girls you follow have OnlyFans profiles, where they go much further in terms of explicit content than what they show on Instagram. Instagram is just a milder version of what can be seen on Only Fans.
If you’re already subscribed to multiple Only Fans of your favorite female creators, is your girlfriend right that things have gotten out of hand?
In addition to following all those half-naked girls on Instagram, you pay them your hard-earned money on OF to send you more naked photos or chat with you. The worst part is if you lie to your girlfriend about all this.
What Should You Do if Your Girlfriend Gets Mad Because of Who You Follow on Instagram?
Although all this may seem to you as if your girlfriend is exaggerating, know that this situation can also lead to the end of your relationship.
Here’s what you need to do:
1. Reevaluate Your Relationship
You are your own person and have the right to follow whoever you want on Instagram and even to pay for explicit content of naked ladies.
That’s right, that’s not forbidden, and it’s your choice whether and how much you want to indulge.
However, now that a new person who obviously means a lot to you has come into your life, you have to understand that some of your actions bother her.
It’s up to you to determine if you want to change your behaviors for her.
2. Show Understanding To Your Girlfriend
We know it’s okay for you to follow all those accounts where the girls take off their clothes, and maybe it isn’t a big deal. You don’t follow too many of those accounts, you don’t spend money on it, and you think you’re in control.
However, realize that it bothers your girlfriend. This can awaken various insecurities and doubts in her or in you.
That’s why it’s essential to communicate openly about her feelings and reassure her of your commitment.
3. Set Clear Boundaries
Establishing boundaries that both of you are comfortable with is crucial.
Discuss what is acceptable and what isn’t regarding your Instagram activity.
These boundaries should be mutually agreed upon, meaning you should also be satisfied.
Just as it doesn’t make sense for you to like every naked selfie of a girl on Instagram, it doesn’t make sense for your girlfriend to ban you from using Instagram.
Finding the right balance makes it possible to set boundaries in a relationship without being controlling.
4. Show Appreciation and Affection
Reassure your girlfriend of your love and commitment.
Social networks can cause many problems, but if your relationship is strong enough and full of understanding, you will overcome this stumbling block.
Regularly express your appreciation for her and make efforts to strengthen your emotional bond.
5. Limit Screen Time
Reduce the time spent on social media when you’re together.
It’s not okay to stare at your phone constantly and check Instagram on a date with your girlfriend.
This demonstrates your commitment to the relationship and allows for more meaningful interactions.
In no way should one underestimate the issues in a relationship that can arise from social media if the partners have different views.
So, establish boundaries on social networks that are acceptable for you and your girlfriend.
It may be time to clean up your following list and make it a little more girlfriend-friendly, right?